tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329706.post114295275637566016..comments2024-03-21T12:51:21.667-04:00Comments on Whisky Prajer: Centerfolds & Lifedpreimerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09905531259256800022noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329706.post-1142975495526915682006-03-21T16:11:00.000-05:002006-03-21T16:11:00.000-05:00WP,A tightly written piece that's hard to clip any...<B>WP</B>,<BR/>A tightly written piece that's hard to clip anything unto; you succinctly placed <I>Playboy</I> in that time frame of (callow or wallow) youth when discussion and action were activites long seperated by twiddling fingers.<BR/>I remember being involved with a lingerie magazine model in my 20's. She'd invited me to a shoot. It was eye-openingly depressing, putting a permanent taint on any of the <I>Playboy</I>-style natural posing pictures I saw again. Lots of propping, prepping, & preening. The Unnatural Triumvarate of Desire. The selling of sex, like most businesses, succeeds best when approached with the calculated airs of efficiency. So much for mystery or mystique.<BR/><BR/>You father-in-law has it in spades; keep the bedroom door closed and the bedroom occupied.DarkoVhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11572734667248592785noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329706.post-1142972644289598782006-03-21T15:24:00.000-05:002006-03-21T15:24:00.000-05:00CP - thanks for the kind words! The old gent in qu...<B>CP</B> - thanks for the kind words! The old gent in question is actually my wife's father, but he and my dad do share a number of things in common, including their profession.<BR/><BR/><B>TR</B> - I seem to have found a rather slippery slope on which to park my handbasket and get comfy! If I could selectively tease apart your response, I'd say that behavior is just about entirely the point. My own thinking, backed up by not one single behavioral theorist, is that most porn fixations or addictions are cases of an adolescent sexual sensibility that hasn't been teased, coaxed and encouraged into something a little more grown up - not uncommon in an adolescent culture. As for desire, it is what it is, and I've got enough Hefner in my psychological makeup to be suspicious of external forms of censure. Some years back I asked a psychotherapist what he thought about the sexual attraction that often develops between a therapist and a patient who is making encouraging progress. He said, "What do you mean, 'What do I think'? I think it's great I'm still alive. The issue isn't what I think or feel, it's what I do. And I don't touch the patient." I never kept track of this guy to see if he was able to live by this policy until he retired, but I certainly appreciated the sentiment.Whisky Prajerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14076228013022881173noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329706.post-1142963794122706372006-03-21T12:56:00.000-05:002006-03-21T12:56:00.000-05:00I once had an epiphany after hearing yet one more ...I once had an epiphany after hearing yet one more married man guiltily attest to a pornography addiction. I confided back to him that on the one hand I could honestly claim not to have ever purchased porn and yet if I thought about it I realized I had a pornography issue myself because main stream media provides me with plenty of pornography to lust over.<BR/><BR/>As George Bernard Shaw pointed out, sex is an easy sell because it's something everyone has in common. There is no more convenient item to commoditize.<BR/><BR/>Like you I had a moment at work when I watched a notoriously unlucky co-worker gaze up longingly at poster of a freshly waxed v***** (ouch!) then after a long moment finally look back down with a sigh. I agree, the sight was pathetic and I couldn't help feeling a pang of sorrow.<BR/><BR/>I have a hard time feeling pornography is an ambivalent item in our world. I realize much of that relates to my conservative upbringing which shapes much of my mores but it also relates to observation, even to those "Nightline" specials where they set up a sting to lure sexual predators over the internet. They can run those shows all they want and there remains a never ending stream of candidates showing up at the door. And there never, ever, will be. They turn out to be criminals, fire-fighters, teachers, agents of the Department of Homeland Security... We can deny it all we want but predators are not a tiny minority. They number in the MILLIONS. There is hardly a street in any town or city that doesn't contain one or more predators.<BR/><BR/>The show is very disturbing and at the same time highly artificial. The announcers denounce these perverts in the strongest of terms while the resident psychologist explains that it is really just an illness. I have to take exception with both. I understand the idea that sexual desire for pre-pubescent children is unnatural. But the human race has been mating at teen-age years until very recently. Indeed it is only recently that we have defined adulthood as something that occures no sooner than 18 years of age. And I concede that in modern society there are good reasons, socially, to discourage sexual relations between young teens and what we now call adults. But the fact is, not one male in that production crew hasn't been turned on by a teen-age girl at some point in his adult life. And not one would admit it on camera. Which doesn't help. The difference between healthy adults and predators is more behavioural than we seem to want to concede. <BR/><BR/>Pornography encourages the commoditization of sex and the whole-sale categorization of young people as sexual objects. We all do a splendid job of acting shocked when we hear how prevalent child pornography is. One of the hardest problems for us is that it is closely related to adult pornography which is where predators start and then deviate; first to teens, then to young children. Which makes it difficult to confront the real issue. For us to tackle pornography is to tackle a marketing industry which has learned to opiate us upon our own inner darkness. We may seethe as they push the needle into our veins or we may love them for it. But make no mistake, not many are willing to take down their own suppliers. This kind, enlightened modern society! We will freely sacrifice our children to ensure we can get our fix.Trent Reimerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11856687416662007848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6329706.post-1142956093541505562006-03-21T10:48:00.000-05:002006-03-21T10:48:00.000-05:00Fathers with a profound and natural sense of humor...Fathers with a profound and natural sense of humor are the best kind of dads, no?<BR/><BR/>A wise and touching way to illustrate your own dad's special take on life. <BR/><BR/>Thanks!Cowtown Pattiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07384649567351202679noreply@blogger.com